People who cajole and like to be cajoled are both insecure:
- The recipients are insecure to gain self-worth validation.
- The providers are insecure to gain favor from the recipients.
Surround yourself with people who are willing to criticize your decisions, not yes-men, sycophants, and brown nosers.
It is certainly flattering to have your ego massaged with only nice remarks and live in a delusion of infallibility, but you are just paving a way to self-destruction.